You hit a challenge, and your first thought is: “Not this. Not now.”
I get it. Challenges feel like interruptions. They slow you down. They force you to deal with problems you didn’t anticipate. They make everything harder than it needs to be.
I was reminded of this in a very personal way during my recent hip replacement surgery. What could easily have been labeled a disruption, or even a setback, forced me to slow down, ask for, and accept help in ways I never had before, and rethink how I move through the world. It wasn’t convenient. But it was instructive, and it strengthened both my confidence and my connection to others.
The leadership parallel is clear: the challenges that frustrate you most are often the ones that teach you the most valuable lessons.
Challenges aren’t roadblocks: They’re opportunities in disguise.
A Leadership Challenge That Changed My Perspective
Early in my career, I had a team member who constantly pushed back on my decisions. Every meeting, every initiative, every change I proposed, she had questions. She challenged my reasoning. She offered alternative approaches.
It drove me crazy.
I saw her as a difficult, resistant person who was slowing us down. I spent energy trying to get her to just follow the plan.
Then a mentor asked me: “What if she’s not the problem? What if she’s showing you something you need to see?”
That question changed everything.
I started listening differently. Her questions weren’t resistance. They were revealing gaps in my thinking. Her alternative approaches weren’t obstructive. They were often better solutions than mine. They weren’t always delivered in a way I could easily hear, but the intention was positive.
She wasn’t the roadblock. My defensiveness was.
That challenge taught me to value dissent, to seek out perspectives that contradicted mine, to see pushback as a gift rather than a threat. It made me a better leader.
But only because I chose to see it as an opportunity instead of an obstacle.
What Challenges Actually Teach You
Every challenge reveals something. About your leadership. About your team. About your systems and processes.
Challenges expose your weak spots. When something breaks down, it shows you exactly where your approach isn’t working. A team conflict reveals communication gaps. A missed deadline exposes unclear priorities. A performance issue highlights where you haven’t been direct enough. These aren’t failures. They’re diagnostic information.
Challenges force you to innovate. When the usual approach doesn’t work, you have to get creative. You experiment. You try new methods. You discover solutions you wouldn’t have found if everything had gone smoothly. Some of my best leadership practices came from being forced to do things differently when the old way stopped working.
Challenges build resilience in your team. When you navigate difficulties together, you develop trust and confidence. Your team learns they can handle hard things. They see you model how to stay steady under pressure. They develop problem-solving skills they wouldn’t gain if everything was easy.
Challenges clarify what matters. When you’re overwhelmed with competing demands, challenges force you to prioritize. What’s truly important? What can wait? What can you let go of completely? Crisis has a way of cutting through the noise and revealing what actually deserves your attention.
Challenges reveal character. How you respond when things get hard tells you (and everyone watching) who you really are. Do you blame others or take responsibility? Do you panic or stay grounded? Do you give up or persist? Challenges don’t build character. They reveal it.
Reframing the Challenge
I worked with a VP recently whose team was struggling with a major system implementation. Nothing was going according to plan. The timeline kept slipping. People were frustrated. The executive team was losing patience.
“This is a disaster,” he told me. “I should have never agreed to this project.”
I asked him: “What if this isn’t a disaster? What if this is exactly what your team needs to experience right now?”
He looked at me like I was crazy.
But we explored it. What was this challenge teaching them? How to manage complexity. How to communicate under pressure. How to stay aligned when things don’t go as planned. How to support each other through difficulty.
Six months later, that team was the strongest, most cohesive group in the organization. Not despite the challenge. Because of it.
The implementation eventually succeeded. But the real win was what they became in the process.
Your Challenge Right Now
Think about the challenge in front of you right now. The one that’s frustrating you, keeping you up at night, making everything feel harder.
What if it’s not a roadblock? What if it’s showing you exactly what you need to learn next?
What if the person who challenges you is developing your patience? What if the system that’s breaking is revealing where you need better processes? What if the mistake that happened is teaching your team to be more careful?
What if this challenge is actually the fastest path to your growth?
I’m not saying challenges are fun. They’re not. They’re uncomfortable, messy, and often painful.
But they’re also where the real learning happens.
You don’t grow in comfort. You grow in challenge. And the leaders who get this, who lean into difficulty instead of avoiding it, are the ones who become truly exceptional.
So the next time you hit a challenge, pause before you label it a roadblock.
Ask yourself: what is this teaching me? What opportunity is hidden here? How can I use this to become better?
That shift in perspective changes everything.
What challenge are you facing right now that might actually be an opportunity in disguise?
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